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  young ones try and be friends with older ones

  by Akid48 in

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  know before i say anything the title might make go like ''what?are you going to say that its bad for a younger person to be friends with a older one'' no not at all i think its a good thing that a kid should have at least one older person they are friends with.. now,i dont think young people should not try and talk to some one older than them or become friends like i said.but to me it seems more like a cover up for the watchtower because a lot of young people when they can most will likey want to get out and leave.now to me all the time when i see a congregation there are more older people than younger.young people mostly want to have a friends there age,but that's hard most family's say ''we dont want to have kids in this system.

  ''which leaves a low amount of kids in a congregation.. what i'm saying here is that not all congregations have 12,13,16,5,6 year old kids so kids that age dont have many friends to start out with.

  so i see the hole thing on making friends with older ones and you should be talking to older ones more as a cover up to that problem.. i might be wrong about this hole thing but i wanted to talk about,as some one who cant really have friends because there is no one my age i could really talk to..

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  I also think they want to encourage friendships with older ones to try to control the natural actions of the younger members. Older ones tend to be more indoctrinated and less questioning - and can guide young ones to be the same.
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  Don't even try it!

  by JTrottigy in

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  2. friends

  there are many here who think they can infiltrate my web-site.

  be warned that we administrators of jwtalk call the listed congregation on your application for membership in our site to verify if they know you!.

  some of you have slipped through the cracks and got into our site, but rest assured, we will find you out and ban you!.

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  <eye roll>

  because JWs get to tell everyone what to do or not do.......
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  Apostate - what does the word mean to you?

  by Tallon in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  over a period of time i got to thinking - what does the word 'apostate' mean to me.

  having given it some thought, this is my view;.

  the org has given the word its own definition and basically use it to demonise people and consider them pariahs.. however, the jw meaning of 'apostate' is a mere word and only has power if recognised as such.

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  Courageous, brave enough to question their entire belief system.
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  Hatred From My Children for Not Leaving the Organization Earlier

  by new boy in

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  i'm not proud of the fact that it took me over 50 years to realized what the organization really was and to finally leave it.

  not proud at all, i feel pretty stupid.

  however i didn't lose my children.

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  After I left I realized I had to play the hand I was dealt. I did miss out on a lot growing up in the cult. But when I left, it was my decision, not one I could blame on anyone else. I didn’t wait for my parents to leave so I could follow them.(They never will leave.)

  It was harder to assimilate into a “regular” life after having been raised as a witness. But many worldly people helped me along the way. I don’t blame my parents for joining the cult. The Witnesses caught them at a vulnerable point in their lives, and neither had their family’s support.

  You can choose to dwell on the past and the negative impact or choose to say this will not define me.
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  Our friend Akid48 turned 14 a few days ago!

  by sinboi in

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  akid, happy birthday!!!.

  am i the first person in your life to send you a birthday card?.

  wanted to send you a birthday cake but the pic is copyrighted and it may not be proper to paste it in a forum.. remember to click here .

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  Happy Birthday 🎁🎂🎉
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  Since You Left The Organization Do You Celebrate National and Religious Holidays?

  by minimus in

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  2. friends

  i know of people who were disciplined because they observed the fourth of july fireworks celebration.

  and i know many people who celebrated thanksgiving but just didn’t call it that because they could get into trouble with the elders.. do you now celebrate birthdays and other holidays or is that something you really don’t care about?

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  Yes — I do all of them. For birthdays it’s about telling someone ”I am glad you were born”. Halloween I like to give out candy and see all the kids costumes. Easter and Thanksgiving are all about the food. Christmas is so much fun to get the people you love presents they want.

  None of it is religious for me.
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  Watchtower Spies and Secret Agents

  by TerryWalstrom in

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  2. scandals

  i'm posting this link:http://jwdivorces.bravehost.com/spies.htmlonce you start reading it you won't be able to stop.fascinating and well-documented citations which give credibility to the belief that such a sneaky, underhanded, and often illegal practice has been secretly promoted for decades by watchtower society world headquarters..

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  Just a 4 years ago one of my relatives was stalked by elders. I wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t seen it myself when I was staying at the relatives house for a week. They showed up at the house nearly every day. Outside a grocery store, outside a restaurant, until I finally had enough and called the sheriff. It does happen.
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  Happy Anniversary, Mom and Dad

  by charonsdog in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  today, july 1, i wrote what has become my annual contact with my parents.

  it is their 51st wedding anniversary.

  i e-mail them from across the world where i now live to let them know that i haven't forgotten them, i still love them, and that i'm doing okay.

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  Only an ex JW would understand the significance of this on their anniversary. It’s the only thing they are allowed to celebrate, only time gifts and cards were sent. So while others reflect on Mothers Day or Thanksgiving we reflect on their Anniversaries.

  I am sorry you are going through this. Know you are not alone. ❤️Hugs❤️
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  Free exchange of ideas

  by recovering in

  1. forum
  2. suggestions

  i have noticed a paradigm shift on this site .

  we used to be able to express opposing viewpoints without being subjected to name calling and censorship.

  i wish we could return to how the board used to function.

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  Free exchange of ideas means posting about all ideas not just the ones we agree with.
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  Getting Married to a Non-JW

  by LaurenM in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so i just got engaged to my boyfriend of over a year.

  my jw parents still don't know about him.

  i'm currently faded, so they know i'm not a practicing jw, but i am baptized.

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  I was in your spot almost 20 years ago. I didn’t invite my parents to my wedding. I knew they would use it to hurt me. My day was great, friends became family, and I felt loved and supported on my wedding day.

  Ultimately it is up to you, but don’t be naïve that your family will choose your happiness over the cult, they won’t.

  Comgratulations on your engagement - enjoy this time with your fiancé.